Don’t marry a woman or man for that matter, who has nothing going for them. If you have something good going for you, it will always end in disaster. How do you respect someone who was created same as you but is a complete liability or even worse, a locust in your life? Marry your kind so that each person can wake up in the morning, kiss each other goodbye and go about your different busy lives until evening time. If you are the ONLY one with the power of the purse(regardless of gender), your actions will always be perused through the prism of ” is it because he/she does this or that for me”. Also, no matter how good a person you are, you are most likely to take for granted and ultimately begin to maltreat someone who is a burden to you BY CHOICE. By Choice! Not because they are infirm or have some other disease. Just by choice. We call it house wife or house husband or whatever else. Our mothers were Nurses and Doctors on call. Still, they helped their husbands raise many children, including those that are not theirs(cousins etal), while going to work, Monday to Friday. They earned decent livings and their money was not theirs for bone straight(Correct word?) and other irrelevancies. They brought their full pay home for the benefit of their family. The originator of marriage never intended for one party in the marriage to stay home or contribute nothing economically. He described virtuous women who wake up very early in the morning and go to long distances to source goods for sale. He also described the woman whose husband is known in the village square because of the cleanliness of his appearance and dressing, all thanks to the wife. He described how she takes very good care of her home in addition to her economic activities in support of her husband. Before he created the female form, He said ” Let me make for man a HELPER”. But in our generation, you can as well interpret it to mean “Let me make for man a condemner and vulture and locust “. Marry your mate ( educationally, financially and otherwise.). Imagine training and qualifying as a Chartered Accountant or whatever else with one of the Big 4 firms and you go and marry a former runs girl or on-going runs girl for a wife. Hmm. We dey try sha. That is, if you must marry. It doesn’t and shouldn’t matter what he or she does so far they are legit and hard working. Anything else, you’d be up for a bumpy ride. Now, let me take a seat and wait for the next set of drama.
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This is pretty myopic. Circumstances put people in situations. I was breadwinner in my family for years because my husband’s business wasn’t going very well. I naturally picked up the bills while he took care of the home front. That is why two is better than one. Now his industry is alive and booming while mine is literally folding up because of dollar crisis— Nigerians from abroad are investing more in his line of work because Naira is now cheap. Is he supposed to throw me away because I now bring in a lot less in terms of income? Whoever wrote the comment still has a lot to learn about life.